Have you ever been too afraid to ask for help? Ashamed that you purposefully hid from encountering the pastor’s wife in your sweatpants and unwashed hair at the grocery store? Anxious about truthfully answering the dreaded question, “How ARE you?”
One of the reasons I think we feel these ways sometimes is because we desire others to have an exalted view of ourselves. We strive to keep up the appearance of being Pinterest Perfect so that other people will like us, accept us, or at the very least think we aren’t a hot mess!
Keeping up the charade of being perpetually wonderful is not only exhausting, but will persist in keeping others and God at a continual distance.
Deep down we desire to be known, but fear the possible rejection if our coffee friends knew what we screamed to our kids in the car on the way to school that morning or that we really have never bought anything that was labeled “organic”.
Can I just tell you that we are ALL a hot mess? The Bible says that every one of us are sinners (Romans 3:23) and that we all struggle in many ways (James 3:2).
Stop trying to hide, medicate or spritz perfume on your weaknesses. Own up and deal with them through the healing blood of Jesus! We are still in a process, but it is hard for God to transform us when we are tightly wound up in the fear cord of being “found out.”
The Scriptures are full of wonderful contradictions to our boggle our earthly minds:
- The path to true greatness is through becoming less.
- To become rich you must become poor.
- If you wish to save your life you will lose it.
- The way to wholeness is through brokenness.
This past weekend I was blessed to be able to attend to the True Woman “Cry Out” Conference in Indianapolis with 11 women from my church and 7,000 other sisters in Christ. Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth shared a message with us on the subject of being broken. She challenged us to live lives in houses with the roof off (honesty towards God) and walls down (honesty towards others).
We camped out in Isaiah 57:15 which says:
“For thus says the One who is high and lifted up,
who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy:
‘I dwell in the high and holy place,
and also with him who is of a contrite and lowly spirit,
to revive the spirit of the lowly, and to revive the heart of the contrite.’ ”
I love that! Here is God, the Highest of the high, and He is actively looking to associate with, bless and refresh the souls of those who are lowly. Humility and brokenness are not something to be avoided at all costs, but rather by products of a life that agrees with God and is absolutely surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. The goal of my life should be that others would gain an exalted view of God, not an exalted view of me.
A few chapters later is Isaiah 66:1-2:
“Thus says the Lord: ‘Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool…
all these things my hand has made,
and so all these things came to be, declares the Lord.
But this is the one to whom I will look:
he who is humble and contrite in spirit and trembles at my word.’ ”
Whose word do we tremble more at? The words that man might say to us, or obeying the clear instruction of the God who breathed heaven and earth into existence?
When we have a proper view of the vast majesty of the God who is emphatically crazy about us, we will care less and less about striving to preserve our puny Pinterest Perfect image.
Can I challenge you to spend some time meditating on the “One who is high and lifted up,” and see if your fears regarding honesty before man don’t shrink down a bit?
Pray about who God wants you to be honest with about a struggle in your life. Let someone into your messy places who needs to see that the Christian life doesn’t get tied up in a neat little bow at the end of each day. Tell your husband you are sorry for looking at his flaws through a microscope, and your own through a telescope. (Stole that from Nancy!)
The Lord promises to be close to the humble and to refresh the hearts of the repentant.
Love divine, all loves excelling, joy of heav’n to earth come down!
Fix in us Thy humble dwelling; all Thy faithful mercies crown.
Jesus, Thou art all compassion; pure unbounded love Thou art.
Visit us with Thy salvation; enter every trembling heart.
- Charles Wesley 1707-1788